On Krispy Kremes and Marriage

June is the marrying month. At least it was for me. June 30th 1991 was the day that God merged two lives into one, forever changing my world for the best, and causing Becky to begin wondering what horrible thing she did in a former life to deserve this… and she doesn’t even believe in reincarnation. The whole internet cannot contain all of the joy that I have experienced in the last 24 years. If marriage is like a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts, mine has been like opening that box to find the entire machine that applies the glaze to those hot blessings of circular goodness.

My dad introduced me to Krispy Kreme as a young child. This was how I found what to look for in a doughnut. It set the standard. Sure, there are other doughnut places. And I appreciate them for what they are. No offense to Dunkin’ Donuts, but they are no Krispy Kreme. It was also my dad who taught me what to look for in a Godly wife. My dad is a smart guy. He knows about doughnuts and women.

The book of Proverbs in the Bible has a great saying,

“A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22)

Think about that… Most men know how good it is to find a good woman. After all, there are just so few good women out there. But most men probably don’t realize that in finding one, they obtain favor with God. We think of favor as something that is given to everyone. But apparently making good choices will bring you favor from God.

I wish all of my decisions and words after “I do” were as great as they were on that day. I have been given great favor by God for finding and securing Becky. But I haven’t always been as loving as I should have been. I could have been more sensitive to her needs, kind in her struggles, supportive in her dreams, helpful in her work, and loving in her living. In doing so, it would have had a positive impact on my spiritual walk. The way a husband treats his wife will affect the way God treats Him. The apostle Peter, writing to the early Christian husbands said, “Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding of their weaker nature yet showing them honor as coheirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)  And even the verse in Proverbs right before the one posted above says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21)

So let me recap from the Old Testament and the New Testament… If you find a wife, you find a good thing, and you obtain favor from the Lord. But if you don’t treat her properly, God will not hear your prayers. Favor with God is obtained by finding a good wife. But favor with God is lost by not appreciating what you have found. No pressure there.

Today, if you are looking for a wife, I encourage you to find one… not just any one… but a good one. God has her for you. And if you have a wife, love her and honor her… whether she is a good one or not.

Happy anniversary to my wife. I thank you for bringing the favor of God on my life. I re-commit that I will love and honor you so that my relationship with God will not be hindered, and our life will continue to blossom in His Kingdom. I am a bigger man because of Becky... and Krispy Kremes.

[Bible quotes are from the Holman Christian Standard Bible, unless otherwise noted.]

Find more of David’s work at Heart Of Ministry.

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